Thursday, January 08, 2009

I Choose to be Happy by Missy Jenkins

I Choose to be Happy by Missy Jenkins
with William Croyle
Copyright 2008
Langmarc Publishing/NF/Memoir
240 pages, incl. endnotes

I Choose to be Happy is the true story of how one school-shooting victim has dealt with the life-changing aftermath of being shot and paralyzed from the chest down. Missy Jenkins was standing in a prayer circle in West Paducah, Kentucky's Heath High School lobby when fellow student Michael Carneal walked into the lobby and began shooting at random in December of 1997. Three girls were killed and five more students injured. Of those injuries, Missy's was the worst and her recovery involved many months of healing and physical therapy.

Missy takes the reader right to the scene -- from the time she left home, totally oblivious to how her life was about to change, through her difficult recovery and grueling therapy, all the way up to the birth of her first child. She describes how she quickly forgave her attacker and how she has stayed positive in spite of major life changes that will never go away. Of particular interest is the fact that Missy says everything she has done and become has resulted because of her injury. She describes her life in the spotlight and how she overcame her natural shyness because she felt her story needed to be shared.

Because she's a Christian and she relied on her faith to get her through difficult times, I Choose to be Happy does have a definite Christian perspective. It was her faith that Missy says allowed her to forgive Michael quickly and -- although she still puzzles over what caused him to shoot his fellow students and is very concerned that his attempt to get his case retried could end up in the release of a disturbed man -- she has a surprisingly gentle way of viewing her attacker. Missy even describes how much she admired him before the day of the shooting.

I didn't find that the author tried to convert anyone or force her opinion on them; her Christianity is simply a part of who she is, though, and she does talk about how she came to be a Christian and how it influenced her decisions and actions, including the refusal to join in on a lawsuit against Michael's family. The book is a quick read and not easy. You are so firmly planted in her shoes that you can't help but wipe away tears when you read about the graphic details of the shooting and the difficulty each of the students and families had in dealing with their losses. In that way, it's a gut-wrenching read; but, at the same time amazing to read how Missy turned her tragedy into opportunity and has used her experience to help others.

Does this mean everybody should forgive no matter what and as quickly as I forgave Michael? I wish I could confidently say yes to both of those questions, but I can't. I can't preach to people that they should always forgive because I haven't experienced every situation. If your child is killed by a drunken driver, should you forgive the driver? If your parents are murdered, should you forgive the murderer? If you are raped, should you forgive the rapist? I don't think anybody can answer those questions honestly without actually being in those situations.

Highly recommended and I found the book gripping, but be prepared for the inside look into life as a paraplegic. It's not pretty and occasionally I almost felt like saying, "Too much information!" However, I think when Missy describes the details of something like her bathroom routine, she does so with a purpose -- to help people understand the true impact a few moments of violence can have on one person's entire lifetime.

Here's another review. If you've written a review of this book and would like me to link up, let me know:


I'm trying to decide which giveaway box to plunk my review copy of this book into -- Drama in Real Life? Christian? What do you think? Either way, I'll pass this copy on, sometime soon!

Up next: A review of We're In This Boat Together by Camille Bishop, followed by a review of A Civil General by Stinebeck & Gill.

Just began reading: Daylight Runner by Oisin McGann, a futuristic, dystopian Young Adult novel about a boy who lives in a domed city during the next ice age. I fell asleep after reading 72 pages of this one and had the coolest dystopian nightmare. We had to move into strange new lodgings in which the refrigerator/kitchen area were next to our stored items and the living quarters and dining were completely separate. So, we had to walk outside of the living quarters to get to our refrigerator in order to cook and eat. But, it wasn't a big deal because there wasn't much food available. Best parts: The kitchen was smaller and much, much older and uglier than ours. I woke up feeling good about my horrid little kitchen. Also, the living area had a large, funky wall hanging made of beads that was absolutely stunning and also contained some large, antique carved furnishings (nothing to sit on -- just cabinets).

Miss Spooky says, "Eat your veggies!"


  1. Nancytoes -- glad you now have my blog in your reader so we can keep in touch! I'm all for that, too! ;)

  2. Hi Jenn!

    Yep, can't lose track of you. So far, I'm still subscribed to BAW, but I'm thinking . . . trying to cut back a little.

  3. Wow, this book sounds incredible. Your review alone left me in tears. She sounds like a remarkable person! And I have to admit anything having to do with school shootings gets me shaky (I guess that probably happens to a lot of people). But there was a school shooting at my high school (years after I was there). The shooter was the son of the girl who babysat my brother and I as kids. Very small town. Very surreal. So very beyond sad.

  4. Debi,

    Ohmygosh, that is horrifying. We're not far from the location of the very first school shooting -- Pearl High School is in the Jackson area and we've been there for marching contests. It's got a big, gorgeous campus and is so, so pretty. It's hard to imagine such a beautiful place was the scene of a crime.

    I do think Missy Jenkins is an interesting person. While I don't pay attention to the news and hadn't heard about her specifically, I think it's pretty amazing that she was able to say, "I forgive Michael," when she was still in a drugged-up haze and she continues to feel as if forgiveness is part of the reason she has healed mentally and moved on with her life. Very cool.

  5. This is in my TBR pile. This is the first review I've seen, I'm glad it's good.

  6. I think this book should go into "Drama in real life". I think this sounds like a great read and I hope I'm able to enter when you do your giveaway!
    Thanks for sharing,
    darbyscloset at yahoo dot com

  7. Holly,

    I just added a link to another review, right before I came over to approve messages. You might like to read it, as well. Hope you enjoy the book! It's a hard read, but I think it's a good one.


    That's what I was thinking. It really is about her real-life drama and it's written from a Christian perspective but is not a book specifically about Christianity. Okie doke. I think I may keep the length of time between giveaways a little shorter because it looks like the sign-ups are dropping off. Then, maybe we'll get to the next rounds sooner! :)

  8. This book sounds really interesting. You do read books that are off my Radar, Nancy. :)

  9. oh my gosh. I can't even imagine.

  10. Kailana,

    You need to rotate your radar to my direction. Maybe you can get a satellite sucking dish that will pull my books up to Canada, after I read them.


    Me either. I think the first school shooting was at Pearl, Mississippi H.S. I've been to that school's campus. It's fairly new, beautiful and has some pretty extensive facilities. It's hard to believe something so horrifying occurred there.

  11. I have this book in my review pile and am looking forward to reading it after your review. Great picture BTW!

  12. Samantha,

    I think it's a fascinating read, albeit horrifying (how could it not be, though, right?). Thank you. I love that crazy cat.


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